IS IT BETTER TO MASTURBATE THAN TO HAVE PREMARITAL/EXTRMARITAL SEX?

 

Masturbation is a form of sexual sin whether one is married or not. The word “masturbation” is not found anywhere in the Bible. How then do I know that it is a sin?

Colossians 3:5-6 says,

“You must put to death, then, the earthly desires at work in you, such as sexual immorality, indecency, lust, evil passions, and greed (for greed is a form of idolatry). Because of such things God’s anger will come upon those who do not obey him.” (GNB)

“Don’t be controlled by your body. Kill every desire for the wrong kind of sex. Don’t be immoral or indecent or have evil thoughts. Don’t be greedy, which is the same as worshipping idols. God is angry with those who disobey him by doing these things.” (CEV)

 

Masturbation is lust; it is the wrong kind of sex. Masturbation, premarital sex and extra marital sex are all forms of sexual sin – none is better than the other. Whether you are single or married, masturbation is lust and a form of sexual sin.

 

“For lust is a shameful sin, a crime that should be punished. It is a fire that burns all the way to hell. It would wipe out everything I own.” Job 31:11-12 (NLT)

1 Corinthians 7:9 (AMP) says,

“But if they do not have [sufficient] self-control, they should marry; for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”

“But if you don’t have enough self-control, then go ahead and get married. After all, it is better to marry than to burn with desire.” (CEV)

 

In the Scripture above, Paul’s suggestion to singles that do not have enough or sufficient self-control over their bodies and sexual desires was to get married and not to masturbate. Note the words “Sufficient self-control” and “Enough self-control.” As a single man or woman, you should have self-control; you should be able to control your sexual desires to a large extent. But if you do not have enough or sufficient self-control, rather than masturbate to satisfy your sexual desires, go and get married.

1 Corinthians 7:2 (AMP) says, “But because of [the temptation to participate in] sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.”

God’s original plan for sexual intimacy was that a man and woman will be united in marriage to satisfy each other both in bed and out of bed – the husband satisfying his wife and the wife satisfying her husband. God’s plan for sexual intimacy was not that a man will have sexual relations with a man nor that a woman will have sexual relations with a woman nor that a man/woman should satisfy his/herself sexually.

1 Corinthians 7:2-3 (MSG) says,

“Sexual drives are strong, but marriage is strong enough to contain them and provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder. The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality – the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband.”

This Scripture explains that although sexual drives are strong, marriage is strong enough to contain them and there is no place for masturbation even in marriage. This Scripture also explains that the husband should satisfy his wife and not himself, and the wife should satisfy her husband and not herself. You see yet again, that masturbation is not permitted even in marriage.

 

WHAT ABOUT THOSE IN LONG DISTANCE MARRIAGES

It is not advisable for husband and wife to stay apart from each other for a long period of time.

Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7:5 (NLT),

“Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

In order to avoid giving in to Satan’s temptation of sexual immorality [whether it is extra marital sex, masturbation or pornography], the husband and his wife should have sexual relations regularly and only abstain from sexual relations for a while in order to spend time in prayer.

If you are in a long distance marriage, you and your spouse should be able to come up with a plan on how one of you will relocate to where the other is staying or make plans about how you two will be seeing each other physically on a regular basis.

 

Being in a long distance marriage/relationship and being single does not justify masturbation from being a sexual sin. Masturbation is a sin as much as premarital sex and extra marital sex are. The only person that is allowed to satisfy your sexual desires is your husband or wife, you are not to satisfy your sexual desires by yourself.

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One thought on “IS IT BETTER TO MASTURBATE THAN TO HAVE PREMARITAL/EXTRMARITAL SEX?

  1. Steve Jobs states so succinctly that we make progress by eliminating things, by removing the superfluous. We as children of God must do accordingly what is required of us as His children.
    John L. Mason once said “imitation is limitation” do matter how well coined the reason why people masturbate is, it still remains crystal that masturbation is a Sin and a purnishable one by our Creator.
    I think everything starts from our mind as the bible as rightly spoken that we need to guard our heart for out of it are the issues of life.
    fill your heart with God’s word by so doing you will surely know and understand your redemptive right.
    Your not a slave to sin but your God master piece.
    I appreciate God for the birthed of this platform through our own UduackObong Inyang. humbly looking forward for new inspiring article.

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